Remembering Robert Graff
Robert Graff was born in Tashkent shortly before World War II ended. As a child he moved with his family to Israel, where they settled in the northern village of Yavniel. Growing up as an immigrant and a refugee, Robert learned resilience early. Despite the challenges, he never stopped dreaming. He carried a strong sense of conviction and believed he would make it someday.
After serving in the Israeli army, Robert came to America with only seventy five dollars in his pocket. From those modest beginnings he built a life through hard work in contracting, car sales, and business ventures. He was a sharp businessman, but more than that, he was known for his generosity. Robert was the kind of person who would give the shirt off his back for family or a friend. When he was stubborn, those close to him knew it was because he cared.
Robert lived with passion. He spoke his mind directly, laughed with his whole heart, and loved unconditionally. He was proud of his heritage and proud of his family. He often showed photos of his time as a soldier, of his siblings, of his children on a boat, or of his home in Oceanside. Together with his wife Michelle, he raised a family and opened his home to many others. For Israelis in Phoenix, Robert and Michelle became like adoptive parents, and some affectionately called them Mom and Dad.
He was remembered for his humor and his phrases, like his familiar line, “You do what you want.” It was his way of saying, I gave you my advice, but the choice is yours. In business he sometimes joked, “Whatever I touch turns to gold.” In truth, it was people whose lives he touched who felt golden, because he made them feel valued and special.
Though Robert did not describe himself as religious, he had a strong inner connection. His spirituality showed itself through his actions, his kindness, and the way he took responsibility for others. Many felt he carried a special soul.
Robert passed away on the first day of Rosh Hashanah, which in Jewish tradition is the birthday of mankind. It is also said in our tradition that passing on a birthday is a sign of a complete life. For those who knew him, this was a reminder that Robert lived his days fully and without hesitation.
Friends describe him as someone who could feel like a father figure, a confidant, and a loyal companion. His family remembers him as a devoted husband, father, and saba whose presence filled a room and whose advice and care shaped their lives.
Robert leaves behind a family who loved him deeply and who will continue his legacy, along with a community of friends who will long remember his strength, his humor, and his heart.
תהא זכרו ברוך
May his memory be a blessing.
